So what is appropriate when you are married? What are the proper boundaries we need to set up when we have a spouse? My teacher shared a story with us about President Kimball. I'm not sure where this occurred but, there was a meeting that was a couple hours away that the Bishops and Relief Society presidents needed to attend. In the invitation letter President Kimball stated that under no circumstances should the bishops and the relief society presidents ride there alone. This confused a bishop. He raised his hand in the meeting and asked why that was. President Kimball took his glasses off and said something along the lines of, "If you could understand what I've seen you would be way more cautious about this as well." My teacher then went on to explain as a therapist he has seen so much more than we could possibly imagine. All of it started with something harmless but, broke a boundary. We may think we are different and that it can never happen with us but, we just never know. He told us he believes firmly that when you are married you no longer need members of the opposite sex to be close friends. There are things we should do, boundaries we should set, to keep our marriages safe. we discussed deleting numbers out of our phones of the opposite sex that we don't need, going through facebook friends and deleting old ties. He explained to us how so many marriages end because of facebook and spouses finding their old "high school sweethearts" messaging them and "catching up with them" or turning to them through hard times. They end up thinking that their "first love" is their only one true love. They leave their six kids and husband for that "one true love". It is heart breaking.
My teacher said if you don't know if you are breaking a boundary think of this, "Would I be okay if my spouse did this." That is a great indicator of what you should or should not do. Sitting in class listening to this I really started to get stressed out or moreso nervous. Marriage is a big deal. These boundaries are important. I never want my marriage to end because of these boundaries being messed with. My classmates gave great points. We are so blessed as members of the church to have the spirit to lead us and to guide us to what is appropriate and what is not. If we rely on that spirit it will always lead us down the right paths. I take great comfort in that. There is so much to learn when you're married. I look forward to making my spouse my rock and my best friend. What a blessing it is to have a spouse and to learn and grow each day! xox, Sarah
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